Retirement is supposed to be the reward — the finish line you've been working toward for decades. No more alarm clocks. No more meetings. Time to travel, to pursue the hobbies you've been putting off, to rest. And many retirees do experience exactly that. But many others find that the transition into retirement brings unexpected emotional challenges that nobody warned them about — and that can feel embarrassing or confusing to admit when the cultural narrative says this is supposed to be the best time of your life.

ou thought you were doing okay. Weeks or months had passed since the loss — maybe you'd gotten through the funeral, the condolence cards, the first few impossible days. People around you seemed to think you were doing well, and part of you agreed. And then a song came on the radio, or you found an old voicemail you'd forgotten to delete, or you reached for your phone to call them — and the grief came back so hard it took your breath away.